To clarify: I didn't mean that being bi and poly made it likely you'd be interested in BDSM. I meant that, by my definitions, being bi and poly make you not-vanilla. Different definition of the word, not an assumption of kinkiness.

I do agree that plenty of BDSMers assume that anyone who knows about our kink and is friends with us anyway will be willing to tolerate, if not enjoy, lengthy discussions of such. I've been guilty of this one.

I'll cross-post this for general clarification.