Status: holding

[serene]

Most days are... okay? Not great, but we're coping. Today is sadder than yesterday, which was less sad than the day before, but yesterday was more stressful. Like that. Things are in flux, and things are in holding patterns, etc. If you have lost a parent you were close to and/or financially entwined with, you have some idea what we're up to this week.

The boring paperwork has actually been helping me keep it together. I like budgets and documentation and paying bills and stuff like that, so I'm making sure things are straight, which is useful for the whole family, but also keeps my grief to a dull roar most of the time. And then I cry for a while. And then I put away the case of facial tissue that just arrived. Like that.

The death certificate is supposed to come today. That will start a cascade of more paperwork, and then there will be decisions to make that I don't yet feel prepared to make, but we will buck up when it's time.

And I miss my mom. I miss her so much.

Comments

[lcohen]

i had the grief but not the financial entanglement--that will come when my dad dies. sending so much love.

[mtbc]

Yes, I too found the paperwork and other practicalities a welcome distraction, especially when I had yet to much approach facing and accepting things.

[emperor]

*hugs*

[wordweaverlynn]

Here, listening, offering hugs.

[labelleizzy]

This is something that our generation is either facing or has faced. I lost one parent in 1994. Mom's just turned 80.

Here. Listening. Because yeah.

[firecat]

Yeah the paperwork does keep the intensity of the grief down, IME. *&*

[mackenzie]

*hugs and love*

[ljgeoff]

*hugs* Love to you and your family.

[hobbitbabe]

I was just thinking of you and wondering about all of that. Is there also stuff that you need to take care of, like a house full of your mom's belongings?

[serene]

Yes, but we're making good headway on that. We've completely cleared her (very full) room, and I'm keeping on top of all the paperwork. Most other stuff is in a holding pattern until after the lawyer meeting (this coming week).