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Jan. 23rd, 2008 09:29 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
serene[Note: For some of these links, they might not work if you're not an OKCupid member. I'll try to tell the story so the links are not strictly necessary.]
Over on OKCupid there was a thread on, of all topics, whether or not to lie to one's children and tell them there's a Santa Claus. I chimed in, and the userpic OKC chose to represent me was this photo.
One of the posters decided that I was a hypocrite, because I clearly was espousing honesty while lying -- that is to say, I clearly DO hate my body, because I'm fat. I engaged her for a while until it became clear she was trolling, or just someone unacceptably bigoted to warrant my attention. Some of my friends there engaged her and came to my defense.
And then the coolest thing happened. The bigot wrote a post titled "Obese people shouldn't accept their bodies". Well, that's not the cool thing. The cool thing has been the reactions.
One person posted a macro of some celebrities who've gotten fat, captioned 'FAT PEOPLES IN UR INTARNETZ KILLIN UR BONERZ N TAKIN UP UR SPACE and explaining why the bigot's position was not okay to her.
Then it got better. Hot fat women started posting cheesecake photos of themselves.
One woman said it was "in the spirit of serenejournal", aww.
One made a macro of herself that said "KISS MY BIG FAT JIGGLY ASS".
One was dressed as a sexy Christmas present.
This charmed me no end.
Anyway, I subsequently wrote a post about healthism (thanks,![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
firecat, for giving me language around that whole thing) that I hope becomes part of the dialogue, but mostly, I'm just feeling really happy and validated at the response my love of my body has engendered in these folks.
Over on OKCupid there was a thread on, of all topics, whether or not to lie to one's children and tell them there's a Santa Claus. I chimed in, and the userpic OKC chose to represent me was this photo.
One of the posters decided that I was a hypocrite, because I clearly was espousing honesty while lying -- that is to say, I clearly DO hate my body, because I'm fat. I engaged her for a while until it became clear she was trolling, or just someone unacceptably bigoted to warrant my attention. Some of my friends there engaged her and came to my defense.
And then the coolest thing happened. The bigot wrote a post titled "Obese people shouldn't accept their bodies". Well, that's not the cool thing. The cool thing has been the reactions.
One person posted a macro of some celebrities who've gotten fat, captioned 'FAT PEOPLES IN UR INTARNETZ KILLIN UR BONERZ N TAKIN UP UR SPACE and explaining why the bigot's position was not okay to her.
Then it got better. Hot fat women started posting cheesecake photos of themselves.
One woman said it was "in the spirit of serenejournal", aww.
One made a macro of herself that said "KISS MY BIG FAT JIGGLY ASS".
One was dressed as a sexy Christmas present.
This charmed me no end.
Anyway, I subsequently wrote a post about healthism (thanks,
firecat, for giving me language around that whole thing) that I hope becomes part of the dialogue, but mostly, I'm just feeling really happy and validated at the response my love of my body has engendered in these folks.![[identity profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/openid.png){kind=small}
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Date: 2008-01-24 06:02 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2008-01-24 06:24 am (UTC)If zie's such a freaking psychic, perhaps zie could have predicted how fat bashing isn't gonna win zie any brownie points in just about anyone's opinion. In fact, bashing of any sort is just gonna make zie seem like a bit of an a-hole.
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Date: 2008-01-24 07:15 am (UTC)*smooch*
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Date: 2008-01-24 04:30 pm (UTC)i'm glad but not surprised that you bring out so much good in people.
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Date: 2008-01-24 05:55 pm (UTC)Also, I clicked through to that wimsey70 person's profile (she was one of the people whose pictures you linked to above) and good lord does she ever have a great profile! Apparently our team has all the awesome people.
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Date: 2008-01-24 05:57 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-01-24 06:06 pm (UTC)I'm smiling even more broadly now. (I had a very yummy date last night with someone who has the most amazing, scritchable belly)
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Date: 2008-01-24 06:23 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-01-24 06:32 pm (UTC)Fabulous! I shall use this.
The last place I worked had numerous women who were obsessed with losing weight, often via the most unhealthy means. It wasn't bad enough that they were obsessed with what they were/weren't eating, they had to criticize my lunch, also. "That has coconut milk in it. Do you know how many trans fats you're eating?!" and "That taco salad would be fine if you left out the sour cream and tortilla strips." After that, I chose to eat at my desk. :(
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