energy levels

My very good friend golden_c_turtle is very good at keeping in
touch with me, even when we're both very busy. We miss each other, but our
schedules just don't gibe, which ended up with a plan to try to get
together early next month. On the one hand, it bothers me that I'm unable
to get together with the people who are important to me more often. On
the other hand, with all I'm dealing with right now, it's really working
for me to keep my obligations down to one a day.

When I posted earlier this month about how I don't need more social
obligations, that's all I meant. Not that I don't need more social
*contact*, because I do like to have a fair amount of that, but no more
social *obligations*.

Distinguishing between social contact and social obligation: Current
recurring social obligations are 20-35 hours at my day job, Thursday
nights at the spoken-word thing, and Mondays with stonebender.
A social obligation means I need to either get out of the house (which
takes a lot of energy for me these days) or have people over (which takes
less energy, but still a fair bit). On the other hand, meeting up with
people on short notice if I have the energy and they do, too, isn't an
obligation in the same way, and it doesn't drain me. Also, if I cancel an
obligation, that takes a certain amount out of me as well, in anxiety and
getting in touch with people and regret for letting people down. So all
around, social obligation wears me out, though I like it anyway, or I
wouldn't give parties and have people over for dinner and stuff.

Anyhow, the one-obligation-a-day thing is really working out for me, but
the bad thing is I have to say things like, "How about three weeks from
Saturday?" to people I really do want to see. But even in a really
harrowing personal time, with my family of origin threatening to implode,
I'm getting enough downtime, enough sleep, and enough time to write. I
cannot thank all of you enough for being so understanding about my lack of
availability.

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My lovers are so very cool.

Case in point: My wife read a sad and lovely story at spoken-word night tonight.

Case in point: This Way Cool Project of someotherguy's -- we did book #2 (I think) today. He's bookcrossing them, too, so we can see where they go.

Case in point: A thing that began when a commission stonebender was on refused to give free space to an organization that discriminates against gay people has gone to the state supreme court.


Also cool: leback, who got STRAIGHT A's! and came along with her sweetie R to tonight's spoken-word thing, from a very long distance.

And cool as well is the fact that I don't have to get up early tomorrow, so I get to stay up late and then sleep in. Off to watch bad movies with my slumber-party-buddies. G'night, all!