Assumptions of kink

Recently, in a locked post that I've since been denied access to via delisting (what do you guys call "defriending" now that the access list isn't called "friends"?), a friend posted some kink-culture-related humor, aimed at kinky folks. It wasn't especially complimentary toward vanilla folks, and I got my back up at this. I disliked being mocked, even indirectly, and when I objected, I was delisted.

In the interim, another friend made the good point that I was at least partly speaking from a place of privilege in space that the original friend may have thought was made up entirely of kinky folk. If the original friend is reading, I offer my apology for not clearing that up or asking to be filtered off the post. But I've been thinking a lot about what would make someone assume that a post aimed at BDSMers is something that I would be the proper audience for.

( That last part is what I want to talk about. )