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stonebender about nothing at dinner last night, and suddenly he says, "Are you having a good time, even if you're not at your home?"
I realized that it's been pretty obvious for a few months that my hermitty qualities are at their height, or near it, partly because of the weather, partly because I really like our apartment, partly because I'm having a blast living withsomeotherguy in that apartment, and partly, well, partly just because I go through periods of hermitage sometimes. The last time, I was single, raising kids, and it lasted nearly six years, until I met TOTGA, had a passionate relationship and way-sad breakup, and decided to kick my own ass and get out of the house. Shortly thereafter (TOTGA left me in March; I met cute-poet-chick in April), I was seeing someone, and a couple months later, we moved in together and I got social again, before other factors narrowed my social sphere again.)
This time around, what is saving me from never leaving my house is a confluence of things: I have a job and can't afford not to. I have a live-in partner who likes to get out and about. And I have a non-live-in partner who can't get into my house, so we have to meet at his place or at a restaurant or such thing. All of these things are, in this context, really good things. I didn't like how I felt when I was stuck in hermit-land. I don't need much social contact to be happy (much less, even, than I now get even if I see no one besides my partners for days on end), but I do need to get up and around and out of my house.
stonebender about nothing at dinner last night, and suddenly he says, "Are you having a good time, even if you're not at your home?"I realized that it's been pretty obvious for a few months that my hermitty qualities are at their height, or near it, partly because of the weather, partly because I really like our apartment, partly because I'm having a blast living with
someotherguy in that apartment, and partly, well, partly just because I go through periods of hermitage sometimes. The last time, I was single, raising kids, and it lasted nearly six years, until I met TOTGA, had a passionate relationship and way-sad breakup, and decided to kick my own ass and get out of the house. Shortly thereafter (TOTGA left me in March; I met cute-poet-chick in April), I was seeing someone, and a couple months later, we moved in together and I got social again, before other factors narrowed my social sphere again.)This time around, what is saving me from never leaving my house is a confluence of things: I have a job and can't afford not to. I have a live-in partner who likes to get out and about. And I have a non-live-in partner who can't get into my house, so we have to meet at his place or at a restaurant or such thing. All of these things are, in this context, really good things. I didn't like how I felt when I was stuck in hermit-land. I don't need much social contact to be happy (much less, even, than I now get even if I see no one besides my partners for days on end), but I do need to get up and around and out of my house.