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[serene]

There's a thread on the sexuality Usenet group I'm on about some study that came out saying that "bad boys" get more women or something. One woman said that guys who come across with that "bad boy" vibe turn her off, and I agreed, saying that every man I've ever had a serious relationship with has been a genuinely good guy.

Some troll creature came by saying that I post on fat-acceptance groups and am obese, so of COURSE I get nice guys, because who but a nice, desperate guy would be willing to be with me?

Don't worry; my feelings aren't hurt. I'm just amused by my response, so I thought I'd share:

Oh, poor me. I must settle for two desperate guys. Smart, talented, successful, and amazing in bed. Oh, poor me! Whatever shall I do?

Serene (woe! woe, I say! I can barely convey the woe through the multiple orgasms.)

Comments

[catrinaz.livejournal.com]

you are made of win. :)

we heard this on the radio the other day, and frankly i'm sure it's probably true. but i wonder how the survey/study defined "bad boy".

i mean...my sweetheart would probably get pegged as a "bad boy" pretty easily, walking down the street. but he's the sweetest, nicest, most giving person. as are most of the men i've known who appear in my mind when i think of "bad boys".

[kiya]

I've seen some commentary on it at Figleaf's here and here.

[surelars.livejournal.com]

Thanks - those were interesting, in particular the first one.

[aquaeri.livejournal.com]

Didn't that study decide that what was basically happening was that the guys who asked more, got more "yes"'s?

(Leave off rant about society being unkind both to guys who aren't comfortable asking and gals who are.)

[abostick59.livejournal.com]

It's worse: The study noted a correlation between a male being untrustworthy/unreliable and their reporting more sexual contacts.

You can't really distinguish between the study showing that bad boys get laid more often and it showing that liars lie about getting laid.

[wordweaverlynn.livejournal.com]

What a brilliant analysis. Do you think the researchers could use a course in elementary logic?

Are you a bad boy? I know you're a good man.

[vito-excalibur.livejournal.com]

*cracks up*

[darklily1.livejournal.com]

Yup...every bad boy I went out on a date with later said that I'd had sex with them, and I hadn't.

[custardfairy.livejournal.com]

I second that you are made of win. :)

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

Thanks, and I love your current journal name. :-)

[klwalton.livejournal.com]

You poor, poor darling. You must be exhausted. Whatever will you do??!!

Woe...

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

I know, huh.

[lcohen]

wait, a few extra pounds will keep the assholes away?

pass the goddamn donuts!

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

*chortle*

[darklily1.livejournal.com]

You are a better woman than I: I saw that post a couple of hours ago and called the troll as ass.

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

Well, we both rock in our own little ways, darlin'. :-)

[darklily1.livejournal.com]

:)

[therealjae.livejournal.com]

You are one funny person. *g*

-J

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

Thanks! :-)

[firecat]

Yay for fatness, the idiot filter!

[hopeforyou.livejournal.com]

hahahaahahaha.

[vonnielee.livejournal.com]

"I'll have what she's having."

[eeyorerin]

I have gotten out of bed long enough to play my tiny violin for you. :)

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

Wow. That's a true friend. Oh, wait, no, fat people can't have/be true friends. Never mind.

[eeyorerin]

Oh right! We will just have to keep on being fake friends then. :)

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

Hokey-dokey!

I used to humor cute-poet-chick and call all my internet friends "my imaginary friends who live in the box on the desk".

[stonebender.livejournal.com]

But I wanna be a bad boy! Could I please be a bad boy, user? Puuuuuuuuleeeeeeeeeease!

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

*gigglefit*

bad boys vs nice guys

[pir-anha.livejournal.com]

you win, as always.

i haven't seen the study, but i wouldn't be surprised if it were true; it certainly seems true from watching other people all my life.

i do find "bad boys" of a certain type sexually attractive, but i don't have romantic relationships with them, and since i don't do random sexual hookups, i don't have sex with them either. but in a fantasy world in which random sexual hookups were safe, and everyone were ok with them, i might. and yeah, i'd have more random sexual hookups with "bad boys" than with nice guys. in large part because "bad boys" wouldn't get attached to me, wouldn't want more from me than i want from them, would just make it a sexy roll in the hay; no strings.

but for me "nice guy" doesn't mean passive-aggressive doormat, nor does "bad boy" mean total asshole, which seem to be the working definitions when nice guys complain about women going for jerks, like in the olden days in soc.singles{.moderated}. neither attracts me. it's much more complex than that.