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[serene]

Took mom back to the ER this morning. Her symptoms are so beyond TMI that I won't share them with you, unless you specifically ask in email. Let's just say she is really skirting the edge of my traditional "If I could take it for you, I would." Pain, yes. I'd take the pain from her if I could. Nausea, sure. This? Wow, really tough decision.

Anyway, she's in the hospital tonight, with an NG tube and IV fluids, and it's a wait-and-see situation. She probably will not need another surgery, but that's a possibility.

I told my brothers that while I'm willing to stay past my planned departure date of Tuesday evening, I'd rather go home, and I asked them to put their heads together and help me figure that out. It was HARD to ask them to step up, even though rationally I know it shouldn't all be me. I know they can't afford the time off right now, but neither can I. They have families to provide for, and so do I. I'm working on not feeling guilty for asking them to pitch in.

(My baby brother offered to reimburse me for any lost wages. Still, I'll have been here almost 2 weeks when it's time to leave, and I'd like to go home if I can. I'll suck it up and deal if it's not feasible, but I'd like to go home.)

Comments

[violet-tigress1.livejournal.com]

She's their mom, too. They should want to help out.

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

They DO want to help out. They just want to do it with money and occasional visits, I think, but they've both said they'll figure something out. They're really great guys, and my reluctance to ask them to help isn't about them, but about me.

[violet-tigress1.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean.... but I bet they're glad to have you ask.

[hobbitbabe.livejournal.com]

Aww. I hope things improve quickly for your Mom, and I hope you get to go home to the rest of your people soon.

[wild-irises.livejournal.com]

Oh, babe.

Call if you want. Any time.

[eeyore-grrl.livejournal.com]

*HUG*

[pyrzqxgl.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry your mother is going through so much awfulness -- I hope she gets better ASAP.

[kshandra]

Her symptoms are so beyond TMI that I won't share them with you, unless you specifically ask in email.

Between my years as gridlore's caretaker and listening to dafydd unwind after an...exceptional EMT shift or two, I have some fairly vivid guesses.

I hope she recovers soon and completely, and that you and your brothers are able to work out a compromise.

[tsjafo.livejournal.com]

Prayers and good thoughts on the way.

[firecat]

[hugs]

[black-pearl-10.livejournal.com]

Not to be an excuse for your brothers, but have you considered paid family leave (http://www.paidfamilyleave.org/)?

[(Anonymous)]

I actually hadn't even thought about it, so thanks for bringing it up. I assumed (wrongly) I would have to be at this job for longer to qualify. (As it turns out, the one-week waiting period is a dealbreaker unless I just can't get my brothers to fill in, but thank you so much for the link. I should have thought of this.)

[loracs.livejournal.com]

One of your brothers lives in CA too; maybe he could use the paid family leave - once again it doesn't have to be you. I'm glad you asked for help figuring this out. It's time the universe gives your mom, and by extension you and your family, a break here.

love and hugs to both of you.

[leduck.livejournal.com]

Wow-- I'm right there with you-- that's how I spent about 6 months of my year this year, was spending 2 week periods with Mom and getting spelled for 2-4 weeks for my brother. Asking others to step up is very much the right thing to do.

[eeyorerin]

I hope she doesn't need another surgery and that you can go home soon.

[deakat]

Hugs and wishes for a positive outcome sans surgery... and that you get to go home soon.

[tracytreefrog.livejournal.com]

Hope all gets solved soon.

[ailbhe]

Oh, you poor love. Your poor mother. I'm so sorry. Good luck. Best wishes. And much love. *hugs*.

[velochicdunord.livejournal.com]

Here's hoping all goes well.

[elissaann.livejournal.com]

I hope your mother doesn't need surgery, and that you and your brothers can work things out in a way that's best for everybody.

Hugs.

[hitchhiker.livejournal.com]

hope her condition improves! *hug*

[aquaeri.livejournal.com]

Hugs for you. I hope this all improves.