What polyamory is (sometimes) like, post #1

[serene]

This is the first in a series of short posts about what life is like for me as a polyanorous person. Just slice-of-life stuff, because I still see people assuming it's all about love-ins and group sex.

I'm reading a book whose protagonist is a tall, dark, hardworking, stoical man who doesn't run from difficulty, takes himself a little bit too seriously, and lives a quietly ethical life despite doing a lot of unethical things.

So much like my first love, the person I call TOTGA (the one that got away).

In this case, polyamory means for me that:

A) I never stopped loving him, so I have an irrational love of this character, who is not the usual type of character I like

B) Even though we're not in contact, I wish I could tell TOTGA about how much Jack Reacher reminds me of him.

C) I can tell my current partners about this and no one will think I'm being unfaithful or obsessive just because I am having loving thoughts about someone who left me fifteen years ago.

Comments

[kalmn]

I love Reacher, too. Um. I got nothing else.

[wordweaverlynn]

The reason I love Reacher is that you recommended him -- so thanks! He has given me hours of pleasure.

[makalove]

YES. Although we are currently basically without other partners because neither of us really has the energy/time for nurturing multiple relationships (although we both have folks in our lives who are sort-of-kind-of long-term partnerish people), I love that being poly means Veni and I can talk about past loves, can still love past loves, can spend time with past loves, without any weirdness.

[erik]

I've been known to say "Being poly means I can carry a massive torch for someone and move on with my life at the same time."

[firecat]

Yep, I like the part where I can love anyone I want.

Reacher books have good weapons geekery but rely too much on plot-generation-by-means-of-sociopath (which is true of most action hero stories, so it's not their fault).

And Reacher would always get away.