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[serene]

Talking to stonebender about nothing at dinner last night, and suddenly he says, "Are you having a good time, even if you're not at your home?"



I realized that it's been pretty obvious for a few months that my hermitty qualities are at their height, or near it, partly because of the weather, partly because I really like our apartment, partly because I'm having a blast living with someotherguy in that apartment, and partly, well, partly just because I go through periods of hermitage sometimes. The last time, I was single, raising kids, and it lasted nearly six years, until I met TOTGA, had a passionate relationship and way-sad breakup, and decided to kick my own ass and get out of the house. Shortly thereafter (TOTGA left me in March; I met cute-poet-chick in April), I was seeing someone, and a couple months later, we moved in together and I got social again, before other factors narrowed my social sphere again.)

This time around, what is saving me from never leaving my house is a confluence of things: I have a job and can't afford not to. I have a live-in partner who likes to get out and about. And I have a non-live-in partner who can't get into my house, so we have to meet at his place or at a restaurant or such thing. All of these things are, in this context, really good things. I didn't like how I felt when I was stuck in hermit-land. I don't need much social contact to be happy (much less, even, than I now get even if I see no one besides my partners for days on end), but I do need to get up and around and out of my house.

Comments

[therealjae.livejournal.com]

I have similar ... issues? feelings? My default is time alone, at home, and I love that. But it's really good to have people in my life who challenge me out of that, because I get really kind of strange if I spend too much time inside my own head.

-J

[firecat]

I'm glad for the things that get me out of the house, and cherish the brief periods of hermitage I get to have.

[futabachan.livejournal.com]

I have that T-shirt, too. Most of my out-of-work time seems to get spent cocooning with ayilmaz, with my other sweeties, or dealing with things in Rochester or Palenville. We do have a few regular hangouts around the neighbourhood that we visit regularly for meals or a pint, but we don't get downtown as often as we thought we would when we moved here.

'Course, part of that is seasonal -- I get extremely cocoon-y in the winter, and try to spend lots of time outdoors in the summer. Summer's now here, so if we can get the house sold and the boat in the water, we have some tentative plans to go camping and sailing and Mouseboating at various points around Ontario.