Five questions thingy
Feb. 23rd, 2007 08:11 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sereneHere are the rules:
1. Leave me a comment saying, "Interview me."
2. I will respond by asking you five personal questions so I can get to know you better. If I already know you well, expect the questions may be a little more intimate!
3. You will update your lj with the answers to the questions [or just answer in comments].
4. You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in a post on your LJ [if you want to].
5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.
[Note from Serene: The normal disclaimer applies -- skip whatever you want to skip, do or do not do, as pleases you, make up new rules if you want. Whatever. Also, I'm only promising to interview the first five people who ask me, but I'll try to get to everyone.]
1. What's your favourite baseball movie? Why?
I have to say Bull Durham, because it's sexy, funny, smart, and features Susan Sarandon in outrageous clothes. It's the only thing I've ever liked Kevin Costner in, and even before I was queer, I had a crush on Annie Savoy. (For the longest time, my LJ blurb said "Annie-Savoy-wannabe".)
2. We've just been discussing outing oneself at job interviews. What's
the most disastrous reaction you've ever gotten to that?
I suppose some people might think not getting the job is a disaster, but I'm not aware of that being an issue, and since I've been employed nearly continually since I came out, I don't think it's held me back much. Certainly no one's ever reacted overtly to the dropping of "my ex-wife" into the conversation.
3. How about the funniest?
See #2.
4. Why are you a reluctant vegan?
I'm not a vegan at all. If I lived entirely by my ethical standards, I wouldn't eat animal products; I think they are avoidable harm, and I try to avoid avoidable harm. However, I healed myself of an eating disorder many years ago, and how I did that was to stop making food rules for myself, because as soon as I make a food rule, whatever I'm not "allowed" is instantly the thing I will kill for. Also, I'm extremely very superlatively anti-dieting, and being vegan strikes me as nearly impossible (for me) to separate from the diet mentality.
So I end up eating vegan foods more than other foods, and maybe one day it will be all I eat. I was vegetarian for 20 years (2 of those years vegan), and the whole time, I told myself that if I woke up one day wanting meat, I would eat it. I did, and I did. I felt healthier and ethically happier when I was a vegan, though, and if it wouldn't cause all kinds of other junk in my life, I would force myself to go back to eating that way.
Why I *call* myself the Reluctant Vegan is that even when I'm not eating animal products, I feel all kinds of cultural baggage around that, and I have never been one of those vegetarians who thinks meat and dairy are gross, or that people who eat them are murderers (or whatever), so I'm reluctant to be painted with that brush.
5. What's your favourite happy poly experience?
I could get flip and say "every day is my favo(u)rite happy poly day", but one of my favorites was the email I got from![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
loracs before my first overnight visit to see stonebender. She said, essentially, "You're staying at our place, and I won't take no for an answer." We had never met, she and I, and she's an *incredible* hostess, so I have never gotten over the sheer selflessness of that act.
1. Leave me a comment saying, "Interview me."
2. I will respond by asking you five personal questions so I can get to know you better. If I already know you well, expect the questions may be a little more intimate!
3. You will update your lj with the answers to the questions [or just answer in comments].
4. You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in a post on your LJ [if you want to].
5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.
[Note from Serene: The normal disclaimer applies -- skip whatever you want to skip, do or do not do, as pleases you, make up new rules if you want. Whatever. Also, I'm only promising to interview the first five people who ask me, but I'll try to get to everyone.]
1. What's your favourite baseball movie? Why?
I have to say Bull Durham, because it's sexy, funny, smart, and features Susan Sarandon in outrageous clothes. It's the only thing I've ever liked Kevin Costner in, and even before I was queer, I had a crush on Annie Savoy. (For the longest time, my LJ blurb said "Annie-Savoy-wannabe".)
2. We've just been discussing outing oneself at job interviews. What's
the most disastrous reaction you've ever gotten to that?
I suppose some people might think not getting the job is a disaster, but I'm not aware of that being an issue, and since I've been employed nearly continually since I came out, I don't think it's held me back much. Certainly no one's ever reacted overtly to the dropping of "my ex-wife" into the conversation.
3. How about the funniest?
See #2.
4. Why are you a reluctant vegan?
I'm not a vegan at all. If I lived entirely by my ethical standards, I wouldn't eat animal products; I think they are avoidable harm, and I try to avoid avoidable harm. However, I healed myself of an eating disorder many years ago, and how I did that was to stop making food rules for myself, because as soon as I make a food rule, whatever I'm not "allowed" is instantly the thing I will kill for. Also, I'm extremely very superlatively anti-dieting, and being vegan strikes me as nearly impossible (for me) to separate from the diet mentality.
So I end up eating vegan foods more than other foods, and maybe one day it will be all I eat. I was vegetarian for 20 years (2 of those years vegan), and the whole time, I told myself that if I woke up one day wanting meat, I would eat it. I did, and I did. I felt healthier and ethically happier when I was a vegan, though, and if it wouldn't cause all kinds of other junk in my life, I would force myself to go back to eating that way.
Why I *call* myself the Reluctant Vegan is that even when I'm not eating animal products, I feel all kinds of cultural baggage around that, and I have never been one of those vegetarians who thinks meat and dairy are gross, or that people who eat them are murderers (or whatever), so I'm reluctant to be painted with that brush.
5. What's your favourite happy poly experience?
I could get flip and say "every day is my favo(u)rite happy poly day", but one of my favorites was the email I got from
loracs before my first overnight visit to see stonebender. She said, essentially, "You're staying at our place, and I won't take no for an answer." We had never met, she and I, and she's an *incredible* hostess, so I have never gotten over the sheer selflessness of that act.![[identity profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/openid.png){kind=small}
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Date: 2007-02-24 04:46 am (UTC)2) Which of the kitties you've adopted out do you think about most often?
3) Do you even like cake? :-)
4) What first drew you to Aidon?
5) Let's say D is 30 years old, and he's talking to some friends about his childhood in your home. What do you hope he says?
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Date: 2007-02-24 06:00 am (UTC)1. Pretty much, although there were several years in my twenties when I had decided I wasn't going to. But I really still wanted to, even then.
2. Probably Bugalu. I talk to his person most frequently, and he was just SO filled with personality. Not that the rest of them weren't, but... yeah.
3. Heh, I do. I don't LOVE cake, but I like it. I often don't eat it after I make it, though - I'm often sick of the big productions and sugar by the time it's ready.
4. Braaaaaaaaaains! And sexy accent... but ... braaaaaaaaaaaains! :)
5. "In the last week of February, the year I was 13, I all of a sudden had a revelation - my parents were fantastic, and NOT dorky after all, and I owed everything to them. I started treating them well after that, did all my schoolwork without any fuss, and talked about my feelings when I had them, rather than being explosively angry. Oh, and my mom was an incredible cook!"
Heh ... I'm dreaming ;) I hope he says that while he didn't really appreciate it at the time, he's glad of all the support and love we gave him through everything. And that he remembers family dinners, and soccer, and all the cats and wildlife, and the food and cakes ;)