Schroedinger's wife
May. 22nd, 2009 09:27 am![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
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Here's what I'm going to do. I don't think I've talked much on this (Dreamwidth) journal about my sexual/relationship orientations and politics, and I'm not planning to import my journal from LJ, as I'm fond of fresh starts, so here is my celebration of Harvey Milk. It's me, as a professional woman, coming out, in response to his words:
"I cannot prevent anyone from getting angry, or mad, or frustrated. I can only hope that they'll turn that anger and frustration and madness into something positive, so that two, three, four, five hundred will step forward, so the gay doctors will come out, the gay lawyers, the gay judges, gay bankers, gay architects ... I hope that every professional gay will say 'enough', come forward and tell everybody, wear a sign, let the world know. Maybe that will help." Harvey Milk, 1978
I am queer. I am bisexual. I am polyamorous. I love two men with all my heart, and I have loved women, too.
I am also a lot of other things that get up people's noses: I'm a liberal. I'm a Green Party member who voted for Nader (once, anyway). I'm an atheist. I'm an unschooler. I'm in favor of the decriminilization of drugs, even though I've never done an illegal drug in my life. I'm unapologetically fat, and I genuinely love my fat body and the fat bodies of my lovers. (I love the thin bodies of the people I've loved, as well. Fatness is a beauty to me, not a fetish.) I am a white woman trying to fight her own racism and sexism, and not always succeeding.
But in Harvey's honor, I just want to end with this. I want to raise my own personal freak flag. I am queer. I am not going anywhere. And I work a respectable job, raise a family, pay my taxes, and am a contributing member of my local and national society. Sometimes I wear a sign (well, t-shirts, anyway), but it's impossible to know me for very long and not know I'm queer and poly.
Letting people know these things about me has not made the world come crashing down. It's a small thing in the grand scheme, but enough small things put together change the world. So I encourage you, if there's anyone you're not out to, to take that plunge and make the world a little bit better.