Learning to say no
Apr. 29th, 2009 11:40 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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wtfpotatoes, someotherguy, and stonebender are exempt from this announcement. ;-) ]
It's hard for me to say no to anything short of things that are repulsive to me. If I do make the effort to say No to something, it's often fairly easy to change my mind, because I've used up all my no-saying energy in saying no the first time. One reason is that I really LOVE my friends, and everything they want me to do with/for/near them sounds so appealing!
All of which is a prelude to the following announcement:
The answer is "no".
No, I don't have time/energy to get together soon.
No, I can't type that document for you right now.
No, I just can't make toffee this week.
No, I am not currently looking for editing gigs (though I will be this summer).
Help me out with this, will you? And if I accidentally say yes to you because we've both forgotten that I need a break, please be sweet to me when I say, "Oh, shit, I goofed -- I meant to say 'no'!"
wtfpotatoes, someotherguy, and stonebender are exempt from this announcement. ;-) ]It's hard for me to say no to anything short of things that are repulsive to me. If I do make the effort to say No to something, it's often fairly easy to change my mind, because I've used up all my no-saying energy in saying no the first time. One reason is that I really LOVE my friends, and everything they want me to do with/for/near them sounds so appealing!
All of which is a prelude to the following announcement:
The answer is "no".
No, I don't have time/energy to get together soon.
No, I can't type that document for you right now.
No, I just can't make toffee this week.
No, I am not currently looking for editing gigs (though I will be this summer).
Help me out with this, will you? And if I accidentally say yes to you because we've both forgotten that I need a break, please be sweet to me when I say, "Oh, shit, I goofed -- I meant to say 'no'!"
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Date: 2009-04-30 06:09 am (UTC)I have NO expectations of you. how's that for love?