Do people "drop by" any more?
Oct. 24th, 2004 09:19 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sereneHad a conversation with a good friend the other day. We live within dropping-by distance of each other. That is to say, it would be trivial in terms of time and effort to end up at zir house, or zir at mine. Frequently, on my walks with my partners, we walk right by zir house.
In the conversation we had, I explained that one reason we don't see each other more often is that I don't know zir "dropping by protocol". That is, should I call first? How far in advance? Is dropping by occasionally without notice okay? How about the proverbial "I'm here to borrow a cup of sugar"? Would zie prefer that drop-by visits be scheduled? Etc.
Zie and I will discuss this ourselves for our particular circumstance, but it made me want to ask y'all about what you do.
Do you drop by any more? I mean, we did a lot of that when I was a kid -- mom would drag us over to her friend's house for tea, and there was always tea, and we would play with our peers. Nowadays, though, most of my friends are *not* within dropping-by distance, and I feel that dropping by the friendly neighbor's house [edit: the friendly neighbor is a different person from the person discussed above] is right out, etiquette-wise.
What do you think? What is your personal protocol for having your friends drop by? (I'm assuming friends that you like and want to see more often, not the friends that you're not particularly fond of or whatever.)
I have even thought of having one of those old-fashioned "serene is at home receiving visitors" days so that people *know* that dropping by is okay, but that seems a terrible affectation.
Discuss. ;-)
In the conversation we had, I explained that one reason we don't see each other more often is that I don't know zir "dropping by protocol". That is, should I call first? How far in advance? Is dropping by occasionally without notice okay? How about the proverbial "I'm here to borrow a cup of sugar"? Would zie prefer that drop-by visits be scheduled? Etc.
Zie and I will discuss this ourselves for our particular circumstance, but it made me want to ask y'all about what you do.
Do you drop by any more? I mean, we did a lot of that when I was a kid -- mom would drag us over to her friend's house for tea, and there was always tea, and we would play with our peers. Nowadays, though, most of my friends are *not* within dropping-by distance, and I feel that dropping by the friendly neighbor's house [edit: the friendly neighbor is a different person from the person discussed above] is right out, etiquette-wise.
What do you think? What is your personal protocol for having your friends drop by? (I'm assuming friends that you like and want to see more often, not the friends that you're not particularly fond of or whatever.)
I have even thought of having one of those old-fashioned "serene is at home receiving visitors" days so that people *know* that dropping by is okay, but that seems a terrible affectation.
Discuss. ;-)
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Date: 2004-10-24 09:56 pm (UTC)On the other end of it, I would love for more people to drop by here. My days aren't nearly so full that I can't spare a half hour to chat or whatever. And even if I'm in the middle of something, I'm an expert at both multitasking and "saving state" to come back later. So I really have no objection to it at all, assuming I'm home when people come a calling.