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[serene]

-- 5 things 2004 taught me --
1. Some things, love can't fix
2. No, really, there are some things love can't fix
3. I can thrive living far away from my mother, even if it's not my ideal
4. Easy is better than hard
5. Time is more precious than money

-- 5 personally significant events of 2004 --
1. Moving to the Bay Area with someotherguy
2. Deciding with each of my partners that somewhere along the way, whether or not we planned to, we became wedded (which is a shade different to me from married -- I can say more if anyone wants)
3. The car wreck and subsequent decision not to buy another car
4. Trying the FedEx job and then bailing on it before it kilt me
5. Singing in public for the first time in years

-- 5 things i want to do in 2005 --

[I am doing 6, because I couldn't delete any]
1. Find a way to attend a singing group (perhaps shapenote, perhaps not -- transportation is more of an issue for me these days than it used to be)
2. Visit intenselaura
3. Decide whether or not to finish my BA
4. Get things published
5. Take SBA classes and see if opening my own shop would be feasible
6. Find a way to help sogwife move closer

-- 5 things i DON'T want to do in 2005 --
1. Move
2. Break up with anyone
3. Die
4. Waste time being unhappy
5. Holidays at my family of origin's place

-- 5 people i want to learn more about in 2004 --

This one doesn't really equate for me. I like my relationships with people to be organic, and for me to learn about them as they learn about me, as a result of spending time together.

Comments

[juliansinger.livejournal.com]

Wedded vs married -- Yes please.

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

In my head, "married" carries a lot of the legal connotations with it. If I say I'm married to someotherguy, I think it says we got legally married. For some reason, maybe because the word isn't used as much (and perhaps partly because my brain works strangely), "wedded" means "joined" in much the way "married" means, but it doesn't automatically mean legally. I dunno. Anyway, I have come to think of my partners as spouses, and I don't plan on ever marrying them legally, until and unless it becomes legal to marry whoever one wants to marry.

Typical conversation among me, someotherguy and sogwife will include the phrase "your other wife," referring to one or the other of us. We feel married/wedded -- we have a commitment to each other that we hope will last our lifetimes, we take care of each other, we are in love with each other, etc. -- but we're unlikely to ever be legally married (someotherguy and sogwife are legally married, so the only partner I could legally marry if I wanted to would be stonebender, but he and I don't do marriage for political reasons (if we did, he'd likely already be married to his partner of 22 years).

[intenselaura.livejournal.com]

I may not qualify as 'partner', but you could legally marry me, at least where I live. :)

[stonebender.livejournal.com]

so the only partner I could legally marry if I wanted to would be stonebender,

Wait a minute, we're not married?

but he and I don't do marriage for political reasons (if we did, he'd likely already be married to his partner of 22 years).

Carol and I aren't married either>?!!! :-)

[jenhowell.livejournal.com]

I really liked this list. Some of your 5's really struck a chord with me, and I agree with you about the 5 people you want to learn more about one.

I'm going to do this one tomorrow, I'm pretty sure. Too late for me now.

Thanks for sharing!

Love,
Jen

[stonebender.livejournal.com]

4. Trying the FedEx job and then bailing on it before it kilt me.

"Bailing" has negative connotations for me. I think you made an honest attempt at a job that didn't work for you. So you did what you needed to do to be happy. Which is nothing like bailing in my mind. No?

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

"bailed" = "left without warning"

[stonebender.livejournal.com]

Fair enough, but I thought you showed up and told them (or called them anyway). I guess that is without warning, but it doesn't feel like that to me. I accept your position, just geeking.

[lcohen]

i'm glad i was there for the one of these things that i was there for.

easy. i should try that sometime.