My reality check may have bounced

[serene]

So last week some time, I apologized to someotherguy for not helping with the housework. He said, "You've been working 60 hours a week. I would feel guilty if you were also doing the housework."

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Tonight:

Me: "I am really enjoying my lazy evening. I haven't gotten anything done, but it's been so nice."

Him: "Um, well, you did make dinner, and do laundry, and walk to the grocery store..."

Me: "Oh yeah, huh. But I intended when we got home to put away all the laundry and do all the dishes, and I've only put away one bag of laundry and done one load of dishes."

Him: *stares at me for a minute in amused disbelief* "Yeah, only half of all the housework. I think that's a lot."


I think maybe I need to let go of some compulsion or something. Imagine that. (And by the way, I hope I never take for granted that there are never housework arguments in this house. Those were a huge problem at some time in my past, and I am happy to be quit of them. I have wonderful partners who carry their weight, and sometimes mine, too. I'm lucky.)

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As mentioned a few days ago to someone else, in general I take a "no one is going to look back on their life and wish they had spent more time cleaning the house" attitude towards that kind of thing and give it an extremely low priority. Do what makes you feel comfortable, OK, but it definitely sounds like you should be taking care of yourself, first, right now.