It happens

[serene]

It happens. It especially happens when I'm getting close to my period and
I've spent time with a little kid.

The mommylonging.

It's okay. I'm all right with having chosen not to do something that I
really want to do, and having kids is something I've chosen not to do,
even though I really want a child. Still...

*sighhhh*

(How I deal with this sadness is to remind myself that for everything I
give up by not having a child, there is something I would give up by
having one -- the freedom to leave the house at a moment's notice;
financial freedom; having time to myself, etc. -- and to remember that
there is no end to wanting. If I got everything I wanted, I would find
something else to want.)

Comments

[elissaann.livejournal.com]

I want grandchildren. And I even have a plan!

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

Tell!

(I think the munchkins' kids will essentially be my grandkids, but still...)

[elissaann.livejournal.com]

Yup. Like that. I just need to find a guy with grown children who are ready to do the deed. I'm falling for someone with children of the right age, so we'll see how that goes...

[leback.livejournal.com]

That's what akosut's aunt did--she never had kids of her own, but then several years ago she got involved with a man who was about to become a grandfather, and all of a sudden she's "Nana." She couldn't be happier about it, I don't think. :-)

[loracs.livejournal.com]

It doesn't happen very often, but I've had a few of those moments.
And I too remind myself of all the reasons I've decided not to have a child. And the moment passes until the next time.

hugs

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

Thanks, sweetie. *hugsback*

[dawnd.livejournal.com]

Well, I'd be happy to loan you ours for a bit if you'd like. That oughtta cure ya! Seriously, though, I'm sorry for your sadness, and glad that you are clearheaded enough to really see your own choices. Hope the sadness passes to a tolerable level soon.

(hugs) if you went 'em.

[figmo.livejournal.com]

If you're still menstruating there's still a chance you could have children.

[(Anonymous)]

Of course there is, or I wouldn't have to choose not to. :-)

[dryadgrl]

I hear you - I sometimes get that too. Tho I certainly know better.
Good thing you can borrow, huh?

Thank you for sharing.

[pure-agnostic.livejournal.com]

There is another option: foster children. There are many children who need foster homes until they get placed for adoption, or can return to their own parents. But, I also heard that many foster children have a lot of emotional issues, and so this is not an easy choice for some people. But it can also be very rewarding.