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[serene]

karenbynight posted this in a protected entry, but gave me permission to repost, so here it is. I welcome comment. I don't think I agree with it all, but it rings true in a lot of places, and I want to ponder it some more. My comments are in [brackets].

1. Just because you feel bad doesn't mean somebody else did something wrong.
2. Just because you feel good doesn't mean you're doing the right thing.
3. New relationship energy is icing. Love is bread. Both are tasty.
4. Play with your food; eat your toys. [I also like eating my food and playing with my toys.]
5. There are few things you can do on this planet more worthwhile, more wholesome, more important to your needs as a human being, your country's needs, and your planet's needs, than loving other people. As many of 'em as possible. [Hmm. I have to think about this. I'm not sure quantity of people is important, at least not pure quantity, as opposed to, say, quantity relative to the amount of social energy one has, or something.]
6. The essence of integrity is setting other peoples' expectations correctly -- aka making commitments -- and then living up to those expectations. [I think I see integrity as a thing fairly independent of other people's expectations of me, but I also see honoring my commitments -- and not overcommitting -- as an element of integrity, so this is another one to ponder.]
7. There are those who will claim that failing to be forthright and proactive about setting expectations excuses you from the duty of keeping commitments; that it's not at all your fault if the other person assumed commitments you didn't intend to make but didn't disabuse them of. Don't be That Guy. [Amen, and amen.]

Comments

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

Yep. I've been to a couple of gatherings you've attended, and I was at brian1789's big party, which I am almost sure you were at. I also visited your house a couple of times, but if I recall correctly, you weren't there.

[mikz.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the info, even though I'm still not making the connection. Next time I have the pleasure of sharing space with you, please introduce yourself and remind me of this conversation. =)

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

Quite all right. I'll try to remember.