On a list I'm on, someone said zie isn't out about being poly because no one needs to know what zie's doing in bed, or something like that. That inspired a -- well, not exactly a rant, because I'm not worked up about it or anything -- but a fairly passionate explanation of why being out works for me. Please don't read it if: (a) you don'wanna; (b) you are likely to read "I'm out and it works for me" as "you're a moron if you're not out"; or (c) you would be distressed to find out my brothers are monogamous hetboys.
( the fsvo-rant )